You Know You've Got a Keeper When...

[EL Ziggy]

My gf isn't really an animal lover in general but she's warming up to my cat and 2 snakes. She'll feed the cat and change the litter box sometimes, and she changes the snakes' water when I'm away on business. She even held both snakes for a whopping total of about 1 minute each last night. I know it doesn't sound like much but it's progress for her. We have agreed that I won't buy anymore snakes until we move into a house next year and I can live with that (for now).

[Aaron_S]

Originally Posted by EL-Ziggy

My gf isn't really an animal lover in general but she's warming up to my cat and 2 snakes. She'll feed the cat and change the litter box sometimes, and she changes the snakes' water when I'm away on business. She even held both snakes for a whopping total of about 1 minute each last night. I know it doesn't sound like much but it's progress for her. We have agreed that I won't buy anymore snakes until we move into a house next year and I can live with that (for now).

This isn't directed at you but I'm going to use your quote.

I don't understand this mentality. The "for now" part mostly. I would believe that any significant other who goes against their wishes of none to allow some should not have their limits pushed. It's the definition of a compromise. Each person gives something up.

[Abraxxos]

Originally Posted by Aaron_S

This isn't directed at you but I'm going to use your quote.

I don't understand this mentality. The "for now" part mostly. I would believe that any significant other who goes against their wishes of none to allow some should not have their limits pushed. It's the definition of a compromise. Each person gives something up.

I think it's because they assume something will change. My boyfriend has limited me to 14 animals while I'm living in the apartment because space is limited.

My space is limited... for now. I assume in less than a year when my lease for my apartment is up, we will move into an actual house where I will have a lot more space and then he'll be fine with more animals. So I at least know why I would ever say it. I know not everyone thinks this way, but perhaps that gives a bit of insight.

Originally Posted by infernalis

My woman started this whole mess... It's her fault!

I never looked twice at monitor lizards until her.

Keeper +1

Ahaaaa, so you were the boyfriend who was brought into the lifestyle. Very interesting

[infernalis]

Originally Posted by Abraxxos

Ahaaaa, so you were the boyfriend who was brought into the lifestyle. Very interesting

I was being sneaky, I wanted another snake, she said NO.... I knew she used to have a monitor, so when I ordered the snake, I got the lizard to distract her.

well, Chomper wound up distracting ME

[EL Ziggy]

Originally Posted by Aaron_S

This isn't directed at you but I'm going to use your quote.

I don't understand this mentality. The "for now" part mostly. I would believe that any significant other who goes against their wishes of none to allow some should not have their limits pushed. It's the definition of a compromise. Each person gives something up.

@ Aaron--I know it wasn't directed at me per se, but I thought I'd respond to your comment. I'm all for compromise when necessary, and I strongly believe in honoring one's commitments. However, there are few absolutes in life and relationships, and every situation is different. In my example, I've bought (2) snakes this year and agreed with my girlfriend to delay any future additions to my collection until we move next year. However, I know me, she knows me, and I know her. When I want something bad enough, it's hard to talk me out of it and nobody really tells me what to do anyway. Of course I wouldn't jeopardize my relationship over a snake purchase, but then again I KNOW a snake purchase wouldn't jeopardize my relationship. It would make her a little 'hissy' for a few days just like when I bought the second snake but I can live with that : ) I do try to pick my battles wisely though. This was one of those 'soft' agreements and I'll 'most likely' stick to it since I want more space to house any new critters anyway. I would have to come across an 'irresistible' offer to alter that plan but trust me, a little wining, dining and a new pair of shoes or earrings, and I'm back in her good graces. It really is give and take just like you said : )