The mangrove eating shrimp

[smy_749]

Originally Posted by DeadlyDesires

i aid confusing because it was asked SEVERAL times before and all she had to show was pics of the monitor only, and even in the end of the thread she said its not in the best enclosure its not big enough which is what i thought, you will find, that most people wont show you pictures or always make excuses when they are doing something wrong. it has always been the case so i get skeptical of people, yes, but only because i care about the monitor, they can hate me all they want, but if something i say can help that lizard than its well worth the hate in my opinion.

Deadly, I agree with you. I'm just saying, the way you advise people is the most important thing. You could be absolutely right about everything, but if you don't come at it in a gentle, polite manner, they aren't going to take your advise. Gabriella responded "nobody cares what you think" because of the way you asked her. Try to have fun, enjoy what you see, and discuss husbandry at the same time, not be the husbandry police.

[DeadlyDesires]

Originally Posted by smy_749

Deadly, I agree with you. I'm just saying, the way you advise people is the most important thing. You could be absolutely right about everything, but if you don't come at it in a gentle, polite manner, they aren't going to take your advise. Gabriella responded "nobody cares what you think" because of the way you asked her. Try to have fun, enjoy what you see, and discuss husbandry at the same time, not be the husbandry police.

It doesn't really matter how "nice" i am to people about their problems, they will still see it as a lash out towards them i was being as nice as i could when i asked about the pictures that she has not posted yet. im a very blunt person and say whatever, if i offend someone it is not my intention its just how it comes out, i have had a monitor die on me before because of things that were out of my control when i got her and partially because of my husbandry so i will probably never stop trying to make sure everyone else's is right so they wont have to go through what i did.

[smy_749]

Originally Posted by DeadlyDesires

It doesn't really matter how "nice" i am to people about their problems, they will still see it as a lash out towards them i was being as nice as i could when i asked about the pictures that she has not posted yet. im a very blunt person and say whatever, if i offend someone it is not my intention its just how it comes out, i have had a monitor die on me before because of things that were out of my control when i got her and partially because of my husbandry so i will probably never stop trying to make sure everyone else's is right so they wont have to go through what i did.

It does matter how nice you are, you don't want to push people away from the forums like other forums do (1 in particular comes to mind). Keep it friendly, people will take your advice, thats why we are hear. To learn, offer input, and provide the best husbandry. But you need to be polite about it or your wasting your breath (keystrokes).

[Pirarucu]

Originally Posted by smy_749

It does matter how nice you are, you don't want to push people away from the forums like other forums do (1 in particular comes to mind). Keep it friendly, people will take your advice, thats why we are hear. To learn, offer input, and provide the best husbandry. But you need to be polite about it or your wasting your breath (keystrokes).

This. You won't teach someone to use a shovel properly by hitting them over the head with it.

[smy_749]

Originally Posted by Pirarucu

This. You won't teach someone to use a shovel properly by hitting them over the head with it.

Depends on what you define as proper use of a shovel hahah

[Pirarucu]

Originally Posted by smy_749

Depends on what you define as proper use of a shovel hahah

Very true.