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Old 11-01-11, 06:05 PM   #1
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a Friend with a Fear

A friend of mine has always been terrified of snakes ever since she was young. She was too afraid to even come into my apartment just knowing that I had snakes somewhere. She would be paralyzed at the mere thought of encountering one. Today she decided it was time for a change: she wanted to come to my apartment. After class she came over to my apartment, along with another mutual friend who's not afraid of snakes (but doesn't particularly like them either). She walked into my living room, where both my ball pythons reside, and sat at the sofa. She freaked out a bit, then took some deep breaths.

It was finally OK for me to open the cage of my big boy Kaybe (my baby bp Pika ate last night so he wasn't an option). At first I held him from a distance so she could watch how he moves. She asked me many times to make sure his face wasn't facing her, and she wanted me to touch his face to see if he'd bite me (lol) which of course Kaybe didn't mind (he's not head shy at all). Kaybe's quite difficult to provoke- he's really chill and tolerates a whole lot. It slowly became OK for me to sit in a chair in front of the sofa behind a coffee table. After another half hour she said it was OK for me to put him on the coffee table so long as Kaybe's face was facing me. Kaybe sat pretty still on the table.

Eventually she leaned over and pet the very tip of his tail. A few pokes at first and then a few strokes. She slowly got the courage to stroke a few more inches of him so long as he stayed still (which he did). She then got quite curious about feeling his muscles and his belly side. Soon enough she was petting the bottom half of his body while it was on the table with Kaybe's face facing me.

We took it up another notch and I sat next to her. Kaybe conveniently decided to put his head inside my pants pocket, so she felt better knowing his head was not near her. She progressed to putting part of his body on her lap, with most of it on my lap. We eventually got to put all of his body on her, with Kaybe's face still in my pants pocket (lol). She freaked out a few times, but got much more comfortable with time.

Kaybe eventually came out of my pocket. She took a few deep breaths and I reminded her that he's only exploring and sniffing. I had to reassure her that he was not angry with her, scared of her, or going to bite her. By the end of the night, she insisted we document this monumental step for her.

With one more deep breath...........


SUCCESS!


Look at how happy and proud she is!


She's supremely proud of herself. When I took Kaybe back and put him back in his cage she was beaming. Though she wasn't exactly looking forward to holding him again, she was still very happy with the results. As she left she peeked into Kaybe's cage and said "Thank you Kaybe!"
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Old 11-01-11, 06:13 PM   #2
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Re: a Friend with a Fear

Yay!! I am so glad to hear that she came around no one knows that we have a snake and most of my family is teffied of them!! So this should be interesting! When they come and see her in my living room
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That's awesome! One of my favorite things to do with my babies is helping people get over their fear of them. It's really a proud moment for the owner and the individual....the whole time the animal has no clue just how positive it impacted another human's life!

Edit to add: it's always good form (IMHO) to let the individual touch/pet the back end of the animal first. I usually hold the head away (none of mine are head shy) as assurance they won't get bitten and it just makes for a more pleasant experience
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That is so cool! I am very proud of both of you. Working past fears is extremely hard. It shows how much your friend trusts you.


I am still working on this step with my Sues. She was traumatized as a child with a snake and has a unhealthy fear of them. Thankfully it isn't so bad that she won't let my God Daughter hold them. She actually insisted that Gabby hold Sasha when they were here in March because she doesn't want Gabby afraid of them.

She was willing to be in the same room and watch Gabby hold Sasha, but she was on the far side...lol Small baby steps.
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Re: a Friend with a Fear

Awesome work!

I feel for your friend's crippling fear before she decided to take the plunge; I was like that also for the first 20 years of my life. I used to have Alice Cooper's "Killer" album and the cover was a head shot of one of his Boas. I had to send a friend (armed with a paper bag) into the store to buy it for me, and I had to keep it in the paper bag because I couldn't handle seeing the image. Now look at me!

I felt really silly about being so ignorant and misinformed about snakes once I too decided it was time to beat this fear and started doing some research. It goes to show that a little education on the facts and proper presentation can turn someone's life around
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good work Alessia! I hope to be able to do that with a few of my friends one day.
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If only my in-laws were terrified of snakes...
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If only my in-laws were terrified of snakes...
get a 12 footer, that might throw them off...
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Re: a Friend with a Fear

Thanks guys! It was an awesome day for all of us The pictures alone show how happy and proud she was of herself. It was so worth it
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Good to hear! It's wonderful she encountered her fear and discovered snakes are relatively docile, peaceful creatures.

Snakes often cause harm to humans either through poison or poor handling. As most venomous snakes aren't kept as pets, there's no reason to fear them for that. Secondly, if a person can recognize a snake's defensive stances and stressed moods, they can prevent being bitten. Also, if a large snake is handled alone it can be harmful to a person's health.

Anyway, so glad to hear she's overcome her fear!
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Good job! Empathy and courtesy are the best ways to help ppl with phobias. Once reason starts to overcome fear they can slowly start to appreciate animals that aren't as easily anthropomorphic. I did a similar thing with a co-worker who (hated snakes). He didn't hold one but I started small (baby corn and rosy boa) and got him to pet a 6 foot red tail by the end of the encounter (beer was involved).
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