Bottom line is this.....
People are different, people have different sets of values.. Manners, etc..
One thing that we all need to realize is that in most cases the interest in reptiles may very well be the only common ground we share.
Many of us know it's polite to say "thank you" when someone offers assistance, yet some people do not.
We all know that sometimes we may say to someone "you are doing that wrong" and sometimes the reply will be "great, Tell me how, thanks!" other times the reply will be "no I'm not" or "shut up" or "bubba does it this way" and then there will always be the silent type who just say nothing.
One should never
expect gratitude, Enjoy it when it does happen, but forget about it if it does not. Move on and stay constructive.
Something I have seen on too many forums is all the experienced people bonding into a tight group and then a new person comes along and shares different views, was raised with a different set of manners or just asks a question that touches on a sore subject, suddenly the "vets" deem the "noob" unworthy and all hell breaks loose.
Can we please not allow our forum to sink down to that level?
Sure if those new people would spend a while reading the forum, they would save a lot of unnecessary frustration for all involved (how many times does the same questions pop up that was just answered 2 days ago?) but that is never going to happen on any forum or group that is open to the public.
Big age differences also seem to play a role in all of this too. We have to remember that sometimes there may be a generation gap interfering with good communication.
So what it all comes down to is we have to offer our assistance because we
want to and
never expect any form of gratitude or acknowledgment and then when it does happen it will be a pleasant surprise.
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