Non-creature loving significant others

[Mr.Lizard]

It's funny,I never really thought that many people had the same difficulty with their partners not liking herps.
My wife thought that I was weird for being into herps and still doesn't understand or appreciate my fascination for them.
Unfortunately she seems to be a part of the majority.
I really haven't known a whole lotta people into this hobby.
And people who aren't into it generally think you're weird.
I've tried getting my wife interested in herps,we got her a baby green iguana at a show that she thought was adorable.
In less than a week it had become my responsibility...she thought it was cute but the love wasn't there,I ended up giving it away a couple weeks later.
Now she says if she ever gets another herp it'll be a cham,NO WAY! I would not put such a delicate creature in the hands of a non-herper in the hopes of converting her.
I'd rather endure the rolling eyes and bored sighs.
BTW,great advice everybody...there would definitely be a discussion if my wife ever hung up on me because she thought something I was passionate about was just plain silly.

--Kevin--

[Slannesh]

Damn, I'm luckier than I thought

The Leopard Geckos were HER idea and while she's not totally comfortable with the Ball Python she'll hold it if i'm watching.

And she's a gamer

All the Gamergeek/Herper guys on the board can throw rocks at me later. hehe...


To get back on topic, sucks that your BF isn't a big fan, I know that having anything that you're passionate about that takes up a lot of time/money that your sig other just doesn't "get" is always a source of major stress in any relationship. Hanging up on you was rude, yes, but i'd find out the why of it before going to war over it.

Hope it works out for you!

Slan

[Sunrunner]

I am lucky, the person I am with shares all my passions and I his. There is nothing we dont like about one another .... well except Music .....crappy death matal **** .... umm oh sorry Point is there is someone out there that is perfect for you in almost every way, and what they do not like they humor you in it because you love it so much ... None of you may agree with this and I am not saying bend your life in everyway for the other person but you shouldnt have to on most things.
Herps are a very serious thing to some ppl and has become a way of life for them not just a passing fancy, what would you all do if someone told you that they hated your 12 year old dog?? I know you would kick them
This is IMO only


Best words of advice
NEVER SETTLE BECAUSE WHEN YOU DO THE GUY/GIRL FOR YOU HAS JUST CAUGHT THE NEXT BUS AND YOU WERE TO BUSY WORRYING ABOUT THINGS TO NOTICE

Have fun Life is way too short

[snakehunter]

hey, im almost 18, funny, outgoing, play an instrument, 3.4 GPA, 6' 4'', and i love taranchulas! WOAH, guess what im free.......REALLY hehehehehehehe j/k.........but i am free

[xdiversichicx]

my bf wasnt into them when we first started dating, but now he's warmed up to it. always willing to help me buy stuff for them and helping to build cages etc. he even feeds all seven of them in the morning for me before he leaves (he gets up first).
the only thing he doesnt like is when i get something without discussing it with him first. (our iguana). the only thing we really disagree on is how to set-up the cages. he cant quite grasp the humidity thing, but he's slowly learning.
lately he's been showing lots of interest in frogs, chameleons, and monitors.. and we've decided that the next large thing we get is gonna be a tegu. (he's constantly searching the internet for info on them.)
basically he knows i love them and he supports that, since he's been in a band for the past couple of years and even before we started dating i was at every show and practice just to show support. so now he goes to expo's and shops and stuff to support what i like.
the only thing i cant get him to like is snakes. lol. ive told him over and over that when we move out of here into a place that we can have whatever we want, i wanna branch into snakes. he told me i could deal with those by myself. lol.

[Lisa]

I wasn't big on reptiles as pets (one or two was ok but wanting to have a whole bunch to breed was a different matter) when katey moved in with me, now i love them. How ever whether i liked them or not is not the issue. The issue is that he hung up on you. Thats like he kicked you in the teeth for smiling. I feel you have more important issues to deal with this guy then his dislike of herps. I'd give him some of his own medicine. hang up on him when he's happy.

[Katt]

Sunrunner, that's exactly like how Vanan and I are!! We share everything, except for musicn (crappy death metal!), and certain religious points.

[justinO]

well said everyone. its all about finding a balance. it is hard when your siginifigant other doesnt share the same interest, let alone is against it. (been there, done that, another person, another hobby).. the other person has to just accept what is. if it is important to you, then they should at least tolerate it without rudeness.

good luck sorting this out.

Justin

[themangler]

if you get rid of that aligator you can call me!lol

[Gary D.]

if you want to get rid of the 'gator, call me! lol

[TheRedDragon]

I honestly could not be with someone that wasn't into herps. I love my herps, and I want my significant other to at least share that common interest with me.