why so much arguing?

omega · 01-27-13, 01:25 PM

I just joined this forum and am amazed at how many threads have people arguing, calling names and putting each other down. Really? Is this the way it always is here? I came here to learn about snakes but I really don't like sifting through all the rude disagreeing that goes on. Can't we all just be nice?

Lankyrob · 01-27-13, 01:33 PM

No theree ISN'T!!!!

There is no dorum on the net without some arguments. The difference here is taht USUALLY there are disagreements that dont result to petty name calling and pathetic insults, and when these do occur then bans occur and the rubbish is deleted

Loucifer · 01-27-13, 01:38 PM

I've noticed that happens in ALL the reptile sites. I've bailed on a couple reptile sites before this one for that very reason. This one is more friendly, so far. People appreciate others vast knowledge, but sometimes some become arrogant and conceited. That happens in ALL things online. Yeah, the interweb is destroying human interaction, if you ask me...

KORBIN5895 · 01-27-13, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by omega

I just joined this forum and am amazed at how many threads have people arguing, calling names and putting each other down. Really? Is this the way it always is here? I came here to learn about snakes but I really don't like sifting through all the rude disagreeing that goes on. Can't we all just be nice?

If yo want the long answer then no.

Terranaut · 01-27-13, 02:48 PM

Don't confuse discussion with arguing. We can discuss oposing views and say what we want and most of us remain civil at the end of the day. A few threads can get heated but thats the internet for you. If oposing views were not discussed most of the things we know about snake care would still be secret to novice keepers.

Brently · 01-27-13, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by omega

I just joined this forum and am amazed at how many threads have people arguing, calling names and putting each other down. Really? Is this the way it always is here? I came here to learn about snakes but I really don't like sifting through all the rude disagreeing that goes on. Can't we all just be nice?

I have to say that I agree. That is why I haven't posted on here in a long time. I know I am a novice but when you ask for information and get scoldings and snide remarks instead it really puts you off...

Loucifer · 01-27-13, 02:57 PM

You gotta admit, there is a certain degree of douche-baggery floating around. Not everyone is a liberated 20-something in here. Common courtesy is not very common, these days.

SnakeyJay · 01-27-13, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Brently

I have to say that I agree. That is why I haven't posted on here in a long time. I know I am a novice but when you ask for information and get scoldings and snide remarks instead it really puts you off...

All depends on the situation.. Some people deserve a scolding and more for things they've posted.

dinosaurdammit · 01-27-13, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Snakey-Jay

All depends on the situation.. Some people deserve a scolding and more for things they've posted.

but how does this help the animal, you scold a new person for not knowing something and they feel ashamed or hurt and leave you have just damned that animal they were trying to help.

Loucifer · 01-27-13, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by dinosaurdammit

but how does this help the animal, you scold a new person for not knowing something and they feel ashamed or hurt and leave you have just damned that animal they were trying to help.

Agreed. Ego trips, plain n' simple! Lots of loud-mouth, tough guys behind keyboards anymore. It's "hip" to be confrontational...

infernalis · 01-27-13, 03:13 PM

management here tries our best to keep on top of it.

ada-man-teus · 01-27-13, 03:22 PM

i think its a more common theme than some may want to admit...But the lack of tonal inflection has to be calculated in as well....Everyones a bada@* behind a keyboard.....thick skin you jedi...The egos in a room full of know it alls at times can be intimidating...

shaunyboy · 01-27-13, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by infernalis

management here tries our best to keep on top of it.

^^^^^
imo you all do a great job Wayne

this place used to be better,it went to the dogs for a while,but i think slowly but surely,it's getting back to how it used to be...

a decent reptile forum

cheers shaun

limey · 01-27-13, 03:48 PM

It seems to come in waves. It's actually not been so bad this last month or so.

When I first joined I noticed it big time. Then I left a while and posted again about 5 weeks ago and got another little burst of attitude, but then it dissipated.

I think it's all down to a few things.

1. How well people know you, ie. how often you post and how you treat others directly affects how people treat you.
2. How much you are "respected" (I am sad to say) some people get the red carpet and some don't.
3. How ridiculous other people deem your questions or answers to be.

But otherwise it's not too bad. Me personally, I try not to judge. The mods are doing their best to keep on top of it all.

I'd just not worry about it too much mate. You can always choose to ignore the responses you don't like and only listen to the people that are respectful

You can also report people who are consistently rude.

SnakeyJay · 01-27-13, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dinosaurdammit

but how does this help the animal, you scold a new person for not knowing something and they feel ashamed or hurt and leave you have just damned that animal they were trying to help.

I never said this applied to noobs, your mis-reading me.. I mean people who should know better or are just careless.