Hey all, just an update
I think I found the solution to my problem...I made a new hide just to see if she'd like it, so I put two kraft diner boxes together (stapled, and made sure there were no sharp points sticking out) and left it in there...that was Sunday, two days later she hasnt come out of it, lol

Ive noticed she has been a lot less "explory" since I put it in, and that may have been my problem in the first place, she just didnt like the hides (2 cracker boxes, its just touching her back when shes in it), and thats why she was snappy.
2 more days, and I'm gonna try to feed her

wish me luck