So I took everyone's advice and just kept holding my female cal. King ( helga )
The first few times she wouldn't let me put my hand in her tub, but I kept working with her, now I've been bite free (from her at least) for three days.
My male still wants to take my finger (or whatever else he can get) off.. He's huge and his bites sting a little more then my little females. She's turned into a sweet calm curious young lady