Telling the new love interest about my herps

RepTylE · 10-21-03, 02:20 PM

I have a very special lady in my life and I was wondering how other guys have dealt with the subject of disclosing their herp obsession.

I know that she likes animals but snakes put alot of people off particularly most females. This has been bothering me alot.
I thought that maybe I could see how other people have dealt with this kind of thing.

At least it's a herp and not herpes problem, that would really put a damper on this romance lol

Weather1 · 10-21-03, 02:30 PM

Do not tell her for a few weeks, and make sure she like you. Then when you tell her it should not matter. Also do not chase her around the house with a snake or she will be gone.

RepTylE · 10-21-03, 02:32 PM

I hope that you aren't speaking from personal experience about chasing her around the house with a snake, lol

Siretsap · 10-21-03, 02:50 PM

If your reptiles are kept in a room you do not have to go in with your gf (let's say a basement or a room other than your bedroom or living room). Do not take her in there, and best thing, is to mention that you have a cute little reptile in a discussion. If you wait till she asks you what is in that room, then it's bound to be a argument on not trusting her with her reaction to reptiles.
I am lucky, my gf is even more of a reptile fanatic than me.

Weather1 · 10-21-03, 03:07 PM

No it is not personal experience (YET). But she told me if I ever did she was leaving for good. At least I know how to get rid of her if I ever want to. LOL

BoAddict · 10-21-03, 03:23 PM

why hide it if you like her and she doesnt like them are you gonna get rid of them?
tell her right away and see her reaction
im not about to get rid of my snakes for no one not even if it was angelina jolie

snakemann87 · 10-21-03, 03:26 PM

I would tell her....trust is the most important part of a relationship. If she doesnt like it, then its just not ment....

I believe its Angelina Joline? I wouldnt either man shes ugly.....

stkkts · 10-21-03, 03:34 PM

Anyone worth telling wont care.

RepTylE · 10-21-03, 03:37 PM

Thanks for the food for thought.

icequeen · 10-21-03, 03:44 PM

I wouldn't hide it.
I'd just bring it up in conversation.
Same way as you bring up whether or not you have kids, or an ex, or pets...
discussing common interests, likes/dislikes...just tell her straight out.
Like someone else said already...are you going to get rid of the herps if she doesn't like them? Probably not, right? So, just tell her. She'll accept it and be fine with it, or she may tell you "keep them away from ME!"
For all you know, she may be quite interested in your pets....and it might just be one more common interest that you could talk about.
Good luck to you and your new girl by the way!

BoAddict · 10-21-03, 03:45 PM

no its angelina jolie
and hey if you think she is ugly hey thats your opinion
but for me she is it
but the statement i was saying is my herps come first period.

icequeen · 10-21-03, 03:48 PM

She's not ugly...she is a GORGEOUS woman.
and it is Jolie. No N.
Perhaps you're thinking of JOLENE...made famous by Dolly Parton in her heart wrenching country music, don't steal my man you home wrecking 'ho, song?
*gags*

Siretsap · 10-21-03, 03:52 PM

If she likes you the way you like her, then she will stay with you even if you have reptiles. And with time, she will get use to them and eventually start to like them.

RepTylE · 10-21-03, 04:45 PM

Thanks alll and I'm glad to see you posting again icequeen

, thank you too

Youkai · 10-21-03, 07:13 PM

I've never thought this was an issue. I'm a complete package - reptiles and all.

Anyway, when my boyfriend found out, guess what? He wanted a gecko - and that was his birthday present some time later. She's over 3 years old and he still loves the herps. But of course, I do the cleaning, they ARE mine.