New member, but issue

shelly2314 · 02-08-13, 09:44 AM

I have an interesting issue. I have wanted a snake since I was a little girl! My mother and then my long-time gf refused!

Fast-forward to now...my wonderful wife wanted to surprise me for my birthday and got me a gorgeous 18 month old Argentine Boa. She is beautiful, friendly, and wonderful. I am in love with her

Here comes the issue

...my wife did not do the research BEFORE GETTING HER and is now really uncomfortable with how large the boa will get. So I now have to sell her! I am heartbroken, as she is a fantastic specimen!

She eats f/t rats and loves to be handled. If anyone knows of a GOOD owner looking to purchase her, please let me know!!! I am not willing to just get rid of her, so the wife will have to hold on until I can find a good home

shelly2314 · 02-08-13, 09:51 AM

I am trying to figure out how to post a classified for my beautiful 18 month old argentine but I cannot find anyplace to create a new post! Please help>

infernalis · 02-08-13, 11:24 AM

the classifieds require that you are a member. Congrats you are now

chit chat with the group a little, and after a handful of posts, the classifieds should allow you to post the snake, if someone does not snap it up from this thread.

SnakeyJay · 02-08-13, 11:42 AM

If only I wasn't in the uk

Donnie · 02-08-13, 11:52 AM

Hello and welcome
Maybe if you do a bit of research and find somebody else with one, and take the wife to see a fully grown one you can see if she still feels the same or you might be able to change her mind?

MoreliAddict · 02-08-13, 11:53 AM

Sorry about your wife's change of heart.

Without pushing it on her, maybe if she ended up handling it once or twice she'll start to get more comfortable with the snake, and will grow to accept the snake before you can find a good home...

Swany · 02-08-13, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MoreliAddict

Sorry about your wife's change of heart.

Without pushing it on her, maybe if she ended up handling it once or twice she'll start to get more comfortable with the snake, and will grow to accept the snake before you can find a good home...

Sound advice. I know my partner wasn't happy when I first spoke about getting a snake. A bit of gentile persuasion and a lengthy chat with the breeder she relented and now we have two ;-)

alessia55 · 02-08-13, 12:05 PM

It might also help to remind her that the snake will grow slowly, and when you see them on a day-to-day basis, you don't notice the growth that much.

Otherwise, good luck finding the snake a new home

blindfireak40 · 02-08-13, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by MoreliAddict

Without pushing it on her, maybe if she ended up handling it once or twice she'll start to get more comfortable with the snake, and will grow to accept the snake before you can find a good home...

EVERYTHING about this. My girlfriend has always been an animal person, but not super-enthused about reptiles. The more she's been around them, however, and the more of them she's seen, the more she's wanted more. She went from "You have a snake, that's enough" to "Yeah, when we have our careers we can get a Burmese Python maybe" in the span of about 5 pet store visits. Everyone's different, but it sounds like your wife has a foundational acceptance of reptiles.

What also may be worthwhile is visiting a shop or show that has a well-adjusted adult specimen (or an adult of any larger constrictor); snakes are deceptive in size. That is, oftentimes an 8 or 9 foot reptile doesn't seem that large in person. When we think "8 or 9 feet" it seems mind-bogglingly large, but in my (admittedly limited) experience, I've been surprised several times to learn that the snake I guessed at 5 and a half feet is pushing 7 and a half.

Above all, I hope you can find a good home for your boa; it would be wonderful if you could keep it and I wish you the best of luck

marvelfreak · 02-08-13, 12:32 PM

If it was a male i take it in a heart beat. Been trying to find a male for my female for a couple months.

MoreliAddict · 02-08-13, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by blindfireak40

EVERYTHING about this. My girlfriend has always been an animal person, but not super-enthused about reptiles. The more she's been around them, however, and the more of them she's seen, the more she's wanted more. She went from "You have a snake, that's enough" to "Yeah, when we have our careers we can get a Burmese Python maybe" in the span of about 5 pet store visits. Everyone's different, but it sounds like your wife has a foundational acceptance of reptiles.

What also may be worthwhile is visiting a shop or show that has a well-adjusted adult specimen (or an adult of any larger constrictor); snakes are deceptive in size. That is, oftentimes an 8 or 9 foot reptile doesn't seem that large in person. When we think "8 or 9 feet" it seems mind-bogglingly large, but in my (admittedly limited) experience, I've been surprised several times to learn that the snake I guessed at 5 and a half feet is pushing 7 and a half.

Above all, I hope you can find a good home for your boa; it would be wonderful if you could keep it and I wish you the best of luck

My girlfriend is the same way.

When I met her, she had never held a snake before, and was not exactly a snake person. She fell in love with my Ball Python because he's so docile. It eventually got to the point that she would feel comfortable taking him out and handling him when I wasn't even home.

Now it's reached the point that she has a dream snake of her own, a super zebra carpet python.

dinosaurdammit · 02-08-13, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by MoreliAddict

My girlfriend is the same way.

When I met her, she had never held a snake before, and was not exactly a snake person. She fell in love with my Ball Python because he's so docile. It eventually got to the point that she would feel comfortable taking him out and handling him when I wasn't even home.

Now it's reached the point that she has a dream snake of her own, a super zebra carpet python.

Ive been so lucky that my husband isnt really afraid of anything, convincing him to get a snake was the biggest issue but once I got jerry rice home and let him name him he just grew on derrick. Then we got athena and when she passed he cried with me.

To the OP, boas grow pretty slowly, the only way I notice JR got a good growth is by looking at pictures. Getting an animal is a commitment to that animal for its whole life. Its not fair to get it then get rid of it because someone didnt do their homework :C

TheSnakeChild · 02-08-13, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by shelly2314

I have an interesting issue. I have wanted a snake since I was a little girl! My mother and then my long-time gf refused!

Fast-forward to now...my wonderful wife wanted to surprise me for my birthday and got me a gorgeous 18 month old Argentine Boa. She is beautiful, friendly, and wonderful. I am in love with her

Here comes the issue

...my wife did not do the research BEFORE GETTING HER and is now really uncomfortable with how large the boa will get. So I now have to sell her! I am heartbroken, as she is a fantastic specimen!

She eats f/t rats and loves to be handled. If anyone knows of a GOOD owner looking to purchase her, please let me know!!! I am not willing to just get rid of her, so the wife will have to hold on until I can find a good home

well...first of all boas are large snakes in general, I really don't know many Boas that AREN'T large, and if you loves snakes so much...they should've known what they signed up for, lol shame I couldn't give the beauty a home, but my parents won't let me keep a snake until I live on my own

shelly2314 · 02-09-13, 07:32 AM

She is fine handling her right now and she is about 3.5 feet. I am working on seeing how the boa "grows" on her (pun intended).

However, if I find a good home in the meantime, we will go with that.

And for those of you that judge her, don't. She is trying and I understand her fears. Instead of judging her, I am trying to educate her and move forward

TheSnakeChild · 02-09-13, 10:56 AM

I'm sorry i wasn't trying to make fun of her, but it's just...if you get with a snake fan, you have to pause to think you may deal with snakes later, half of america is scared of snakes anyways, it's nothing to laugh at, it's a serious phobia...well if it's spawned from a phobia, if it's spawned from one at least, I have phobias myself. It's good that you're trying to educate her, and such, that's the best route, much better then the method my friends are trying to get rid of my acrophobia...they're throwing me on tall amusement park rides and hoping I'll get over it after like fifty of them...*swirly eyes*