Need some advice

Rebecca · 02-18-05, 03:30 PM

Ok hopfully this isn't breaking any rules or anything but I need some advice. My Grandma is dying she's basicly in a coma. She's been bad for a while. I havn't gone to see her because I don't want my last memory of her being like that. Now the care home doesn't think she'll last the night. I don't know if I should go see her or not. What do you guys think??

joey · 02-18-05, 03:44 PM

Even though your gramma is in a coma she can still hear. You could go to her and just hold her hand and tell her how much you love her. It's very hard to do, yes, and you will remember that moment forever. When I was 16 my grandfather was dying from cancer and my parents took my sister and I to see him at Hospice. It was sad and shocking to see him in a coma, he ended up dying the next day. I am glad I got to go.

Were you close to her?

Go with your heart... there is no right or wrong here---just what you feel.

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nevermind the post below, that's youth speaking....

orko · 02-18-05, 03:44 PM

this is the type of question you should be asking yourself - not random people that don't even know you or your grandma. sorry to sound like such a ****, i just think it's up to you.
derek

orko · 02-18-05, 03:51 PM

ouch, joey...jeez, i just thought she should be asking her own family or sumthin'.
derek

CamHanna · 02-18-05, 03:53 PM

My Grandma died while I was away and I regret not being there. I was there when my Grandpa died and it's not a pleasant memory. It's a tough decision but, as orko pointed out, it's your decision.

Cam

joey · 02-18-05, 03:53 PM

sorry---you just sounded kinda cold.

orko · 02-18-05, 03:56 PM

ya, maybe it did sound a little cold - sorry if it came off that way rebecca. whatever decision you make i hope you do okay.

Rebecca · 02-18-05, 05:15 PM

I just kinda wanted an outside point of view. My family all think I should go but it could just be because she's my grandma. I know it's up to me. I don't think I'll go because I don't want to see her like that. I don't want to remember her like that. I may regret not going to say good bye to her but, even when she was awake she didn't understand what people were saying to her. She was basicly crazy, didn't understand, didn't really hear you. So even though people who are like that do hear you I believe that but I don't think she'
d understand. I don't really have much to say anyway I kinda said my goodbyes already to her. But, Thanks for the opinions.