Apparently you received your new family the same day I did--congratulations!
And like me, you're stressing out over what you expect and what they are wont to do...which apparently, as I'm finding, is everything else. Based on my own limited experience, and as one n00b to another...relax.
My Corn disappeared the day I put in her hollow log structure and rarely ventures out, though I did catch sight of her last night in her hot hide, but by morning she was back hiding in the faux logs. My King, since feeding her inside her hot hide, which I too removed to offer up dinner, she's been inside the faux logs. I left a pinky for the Corn since she wouldn't come out, and she took it, and the King struck hard and immediately swallowed hers. That was on the 3rd.
Since then, there have been poo piles left in both habitats so I know they are still alive, and feeding time is tonight (4th day) or tomorrow night (5th). If they're there, so be it, tongs and pinkies for all; if not, I might leave an offering again, or I might wait until late at night to catch them in the open to feed them. I personally want to feed them myself, so they get used to it, but they're still new and I can be flexible for now unless I'm advised otherwise.
Be patient my padawon!