its that time of year, i guess

[mommanessy247]

spring = layers of pollen everywhere, allergies & a cold followed by laryngitis...ugh being sick sucks. can hardly talk. so glad all the creatures are enjoying their "love" season...

[infernalis]

The pollen density is at it's peak, it will decline soon.

It's gotta beat being all cooped up indoors. ;)

[mommanessy247]

& i love being outdoors too. working in the garden or just enjoying my flowers.

[infernalis]

See what I mean, if you look at the "bright side" it's better to be outside with some allergies than locked up in the house.

My big "allergy" is that school is out for 90 days straight... Don't get me wrong, I love my kids, but when school gets let out, I can't send them away 5 days a week http://laserpointerforums.com/images/smilies/evilgrin07.gif

[mommanessy247]

lol i know whatcha mean on the school issue. summer vacations are a struggle here & i count down the days til they go back lol.

[Lankyrob]

Some days looking at the bright side is all that you can do!!

[mommanessy247]

yeah i know lol

[Lankyrob]

Just read my previous post and realised how miserable it sounds!!

Sorry about that - having a tough day to day with regard to pain levels - now doped up and looking forward to tomorrow being a better day!! :) :) :)

[mommanessy247]

its alright.

[infernalis]

Rob, all things considered, you have a great outlook on life.

[Lankyrob]

Feeling better now that the pinkillers are starting to work.

I try to keep a bright outlook as things arent gonna change in terms of my disability and once you start thinking too much about the things that you CANT do anymore it is a slippery slope; much better to focus on enjoying the things that you CAN do instead.

Its hard to believe that four years ago i was a healthy active chap waiting for his missus to give birth!! At least not being able to work i havent missed first words first steps etc and that is the biggest silver lining of any cloud!!

[infernalis]

What happened Rob?? I have been wondering for some time now.

[shaunyboy]

What happened Rob?? I have been wondering for some time now.

if i'm being honest ive often wondered myself.but if its private mate,just disregard this part of my post.


re miserable post,dont worry about it mate,we all have off days.you have a lot to contend with.i hope you dont take this the wrong way.

i was in a wheelchair for 18 months as it took me 3 years to learn to walk again after a bad car crash.i am not trying to imply i know what your going through just that i had a taste of it and i can understand some of the crap you have to go through on a daily basis.it was not until i was in this prediciment that i realised how sh**e our societys geared towards your condition.silly things like shop doors that were impossible to both hold open and get through at the same time.public transport was as bad.even when i went onto crutches for my last 18 month.it was still very hard to get around.re your pain now that i can understand more.i too have to medicate every day with pain killers that would knock the average guy out.i'm left with a metal plate that runs the length of my right femur (to hold it all together) with a big bolt driven through the ball that sits on the end of the femur.essentially my hip at the pelvis end.also 8 horizontal bolts hold the plate to the length of my femur.also 3 out of 4 of my crewsha (bad spelling,wrote it how it sounds) ligaments have been stretched and twisted beyond repair.so every day you wake up then you lye there for a bit waiting to see what like the pain threshold will be for that day.days where i have next to no pain,days where i sit alone in my bedroom as i'm a pain in the backside to be around.so as for me mate you do what you need to do.sometimes its better to get it out than bottle it all up.i really hope ive not sounded patronising or used words that have offended you in any way mate as that was never my intention.i just wanted you to know,ive been through a spell of it and can understand some of what you go through.your situation puts most folks troubles in perspective and yet you still hear them moaning about next to nothing.you have a great outlook on life mate.....!!!

all the best shaun

[infernalis]

Kudos Shaun!!!

[Lankyrob]

Thanks shaun and sorry to hear of your situation too - i think the not knowing how each day will be is the worst as its difficult to plan ahead.

As to what happened - i was kinda a fitness freak - weight training, running, loooong walks, swimming, cycling - you name it really. I turned 30 and decided i needed to take part in some competitive sport and for years have been watching UFC (Ultimate Fighting) on tv so decided to give it a go. Within the first couple of lessons i managed to fall onto my shoulder causing a stage 3 compression of the AC joint - should have gone straigh to hospital but being a typical bloke i ignored it and carried on. In the long run ended up causing more problems and having to stop pretty much all of my exercise routine until they could operate.

To keep fit upped the cycling to where i was doing 15 odd miles per day to work and back then upto 100 miles or so each weekend. One morning on the way to work i was introduced to a Nissan Navara pick up at around 25miles per hour!! Not teh best thing but the biggest thing was that i stood up dusted myself off and thought that i was fine.

Couple of days later my back stiffened over a period of about 90minutes to the point that i needed to be lifted by my father and brother in law off the sofa i was sat on. Was diagnosed with whiplash and treated for that which got rid of a lot of the stiffness but was left in constant pain pretty much from my armpits to my knees. Some days it is just my lower back and other days its pretty much every joint that hurts. There is no cure just managing pain levels as much as possible.

I can empathise with shaun - some days just crash out, doped up, with a laptop and try not to rip anyones head off!! Some days i get out and about fairly well and enjoy what i can without overdoing things too much.

From chatting to others in chronic pain i think we all do the "wake up - lie still and try to find out what hurts before trying to move" thing!!

So thats me - sorry if i went on a bit but there we go!!

Keep smiling :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

[emseeKAY]

thats crazy! 100 miles! i really do feel sorry for you guys but im sure you all have begun to get sick of that routine, i congratulate you on your outlook though, ive often wondered about the things that would be impossible if i were injured in some sort of accident that i never saw coming, a member of my rugby club a few years back died on the pitch from a heart related illness that he didnt know of and that scared me a little... its crazy how something that seems so harmless can be coupled in some way, shape, or form into something life-changing or destroying.

Cheers on the attitudes though, dunno how id be if i were in that situation, im sure id be a little nasty to say the least but like everyone said, you gotta look at the glass half full! Hopefully it gets even a little better guys!

[Lankyrob]

There is no way to imagine what it is like without experienceing it and i wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. All i can say is that when you have no choice but get on with things you just learn to do what you can and live with the fact that you cant do everythign you used to.

Concentrate on the good and dont dwell on the bad and things look pretty good.

[infernalis]

Concentrate on the good and dont dwell on the bad and things look pretty good.

Best thing I have read yet today!

[shaunyboy]

take my hat off to you rob mate.you have some huge testicular fortitude going on there mate.....!!!

[Will0W783]

ou have some huge testicular fortitude going on there mate.

Oh my God, ROTFLMAO!

[Lankyrob]

lol - thanks (i think) shauny!!

[shaunyboy]

lol - thanks (i think) shauny!!


it was a compliment mate.....!!!

you got big un's with that attitude my friend.
cheers shaun

[Lankyrob]

I think the worse thing can be a feeling of uselessness (not able to earn money for the household and relying on others for help) but the best way around this i have found is to help others when ever possible.

We have recently decided to take on animals that need to be rehomed due to others not being able to care for them anymore - time is something i have plenty of!!! So far we have taken in a cat and an adult corn snake. We may concentrate on rehoming reptiles more than more cats tho as they are easier to "contain"!!

[shaunyboy]

I think the worse thing can be a feeling of uselessness (not able to earn money for the household and relying on others for help) but the best way around this i have found is to help others when ever possible.

We have recently decided to take on animals that need to be rehomed due to others not being able to care for them anymore - time is something i have plenty of!!! So far we have taken in a cat and an adult corn snake. We may concentrate on rehoming reptiles more than more cats tho as they are easier to "contain"!!




the one thing we both are very lucky with is we have good wifes mate.its times like this that you get an even better understanding of the old saying " behind every good man is a good woman "

cheers shaun

[Lankyrob]

Most definitely Shaun - i really dont like to think where i would have ended up without my Lynsey to look after me and pick me up emotionally.

Here's to wonderful women!!